It seems only yesterday we reported two cousins who received a homophobic insult on a restaurant bill, and unfortunately a similar case has already occurred in Fort Wayne, Indiana.
Michele Crider works as a waitress at a local Dash-In restaurant but made headlines this week due after her brave response to a customer that left a homophobic insult on her receipt. After having the table served by Crider, the diner wrote, “I DON’T TIP F*GS” on the bill. Obviously shocked and upset by the unnecessary comment, Crider decided to speak out against the abuse.
As an openly gay woman, Crider used Facebook to post a video highlighting how homophobia is still very prevalent in society and that being gay is only one part of what creates her identity. The video was captioned, “You know… I just hope this message gets back to this guy. You, sir, are a sad excuse for a human.”
Now viewed over 8 million times, the message went as follows:
“When you look at me, all you see is a f*g, but I need you to know something: I’m a lot more than that. I’m a mother. I work my butt off, sir, to pay my bills, to put my son into a good school and pay that tuition. I work my butt off to do things like that. I am a 33-year-old woman who is just now able to get on her own two feet and do things on her own. And then I have people like you who think it’s acceptable to try to knock those people down. I hope you do not have children, sir. I hope you aren’t raising a little human to grow up and be a bigot like you. I feel very, very bad for you.”
Social media users reached out to Crider shortly after to show their support and also spread the message that no one should be spreading hate in the world. As one user mentioned, ‘just don’t tip, you didn’t have to write that hate’.
The Dash-In restaurant also made their stance clear, issuing a statement: “On Feburary 19, 2019, one of our customers made a prejudicial comment to one of our employees. The Dash-In prides itself on providing a welcoming, safe haven for customers and employees from all walks of life. This incident only strengthens our resolve to be a force of good in our community. We will continue to support those in our extended Dash-In family. We eagerly welcome all those who share these values and can’t wait to see you soon.”
This is a great response to hear from restaurant management and these positive messages need to reinforced as much as possible.